VP Marketing, Meddle.it

Having it all seems to breed wanting more. And since we can’t have it all because it is statistically impossible, and since there is no such thing as more than all, the whole notion seems, I’m sorry to say, depressingly American. In many countries, having it all is learning to read. Having it all is getting to choose whom you love. Having it all is walking to school without worrying that you might get raped on the way. One of the most revolting parts about the American female version — and there are many — is that having it all defines “all” one way: marriage, children, career. It assumes all women want the same thing. Success rests on achieving three goals (life viewed not as a continuum, but an endpoint), and these goals, as it happens, are exactly the ones that will declare you a success at your high school reunion.

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The reality of "having it all" is that not only is it impossible to achieve and maintain; but that we allow such an impossible thing to perpetually be our guide to how we are constantly failing to measure up. Leaning In, by definition perpetuates the scarcity myth that you aren't doing enough already. Finally an author who stands up to this myth and reminds us that having it all is in small fleeting moments when the right and wrong live in harmonious balance

Audrey Bellis, VP Marketing, Meddle.it

The reality of "having it all" is that not only is it impossible to achieve and maintain; but that we allow such an impossible thing to perpetually be our guide to how we are constantly failing to measure up. Leaning In, by definition perpetuates the scarcity myth that you aren't doing enough already. Finally an author who stands up to this myth and reminds us that having it all is in small fleeting moments when the right and wrong live in harmonious balance

30 Rock's Liz Lemon made this discourse come alive for me, and Debora Spar explained how it came about. She hammers home "the personal is political." When we think the feminist "war is won" it can make women (any of us, really) turn inward and blame our selves for not achieving anything but sheer perfection, like having it all. http://www.npr.org/2013/09/16/223041014/barnard-president-todays-wonder-women-must-reframe-feminism

Audrey Bellis, VP Marketing, Meddle.it

you're so right Vince! Thanks for the link I'm going to check it out right now. This propaganda bugged me so much I had to write an OpEd on it myself: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/audrey-bellis/the-propaganda-of-having-it-all_b_3941664.html

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